Let’s be real: self-care has been hijacked. Somewhere along the way, it turned into overpriced candles, bubble baths, and forced smiles. But what if you’re exhausted, burned out, and don’t have the energy to ‘just think positive’? Then this post is for you.
1. Self-Care That Actually Works
Tired of hearing “drink more water” as if that’ll fix your entire life? Same. Here’s what real self-care looks like:
- Saying NO without guilt
- Sleeping without feeling like you have to earn it
- Cutting off energy vampires who drain you dry
2. Toxic Positivity Is Making You Feel Worse
Ever been told to “just be grateful” when you’re struggling? That’s toxic positivity at work. It invalidates real feelings and leaves people feeling worse.
Instead of forcing fake happiness, try this:
- Feel your feelings (yes, even the messy ones)
- Find coping strategies that actually work for YOU
- Say no to people who dismiss your struggles
3. Signs You Need a Mental Reset
If you’re snapping at everyone, exhausted but can’t sleep, and hate everyone you work with, guess what? You need a break. Signs you’re running on empty:
- You’re irritated at everything (even the way people breathe)
- You’re overwhelmed by small tasks
- You daydream about quitting life and living in a cabin in the woods
4. Your Job is Not Your Whole Identity
Hustle culture would have you believe that your job = your worth. Spoiler: it doesn’t. If you didn’t have a job title, who would you be? Think about it.
Here’s your permission slip to:
- Rest without guilt
- Take time for hobbies that don’t make money
- Stop defining your entire existence by productivity
5. A Reminder for the People Pleasers
Not everyone deserves access to you. If you find yourself constantly exhausted from saying yes to everything, it’s time to set boundaries like:
- “I don’t have capacity for that right now.”
- “I can’t make it, but I hope it goes well!”
- “I need to prioritize myself.”
6. Stop Over-Apologizing
If “sorry” is your go-to phrase, let’s fix that. Try these instead:
- Instead of “Sorry I’m late” → “Thanks for waiting!”
- Instead of “Sorry for bothering you” → “Do you have a moment?”
- Instead of “Sorry I can’t” → “I won’t be able to, but thanks for thinking of me!”
7. Your Daily Affirmation: You Are Not Behind
Here’s your reminder: You are on your own damn timeline. Stop comparing yourself to people who have different lives, circumstances, and privileges. You’re doing just fine.
What’s Next?
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